Signs of Workplace Bullying

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Workplace bullying can often be subtle, leaving you unsure whether what you’re experiencing is normal or harmful. Yet, its impact is anything but subtle—it can take a serious toll on your confidence, mental health, and overall wellbeing. 

Sadly, bullying at work is more common than many realise. A survey by the TUC found that nearly a third of UK workers have experienced bullying, with women and young workers being particularly affected. Recognising the signs is a crucial first step in addressing the issue and protecting yourself or a colleague.

Bullying

In this article, we’ll explore the behaviours and patterns that signal workplace bullying. By understanding these signs, you can take action to create a healthier, more supportive working environment for yourself and others. 

What is Bullying?

Bullying is repeated, unwanted behaviour that causes harm, distress, or humiliation to a person. At work, it can show up in different ways. Sometimes it’s obvious, like shouting or insulting. Other times, it’s more subtle, like leaving someone out or undermining their efforts. 

Workplace bullying often involves a misuse of power. The bully may target someone who feels they can’t stand up for themselves. This behaviour can create a toxic environment, affecting not just the person being bullied but the whole team. It doesn’t always happen face-to-face. Spreading rumours, keeping important information from someone, or giving impossible tasks are also forms of bullying. 

It’s important to emphasise that bullying is not the same as a one-off disagreement or constructive feedback. Bullying is ongoing and meant to harm. It can take a serious toll on someone’s mental health, confidence, and ability to work. 

Spotting bullying is the first step to stopping it. By understanding what bullying looks like, we can all work towards a safer and more respectful workplace. 

How Does Bullying at Work Impact Performance?

Workplace bullying can make it hard for someone to do their job well. The emotional, mental, and physical strain it causes can impact focus, motivation, and overall job satisfaction.  

One common effect is difficulty concentrating. When someone feels anxious or stressed due to bullying, it’s harder to stay focused. This can lead to mistakes, missed deadlines, and a drop in the quality of their work. 

Bullying also drains motivation. Feeling singled out or undervalued often makes people less engaged with their work. They might withdraw from team activities or avoid taking on new tasks, which can further isolate them and lower productivity. 

The physical toll of bullying can’t be ignored either. Issues like poor sleep, constant fatigue, or headaches can leave employees feeling unwell and unable to give their best at work. This often leads to more sick days and disruptions for the team. 

Bullying doesn’t just affect individuals; it can harm the whole team. For instance, seeing or experiencing bullying creates tension and fear, which damages trust and teamwork. When people don’t feel safe or supported, collaboration and creativity take a hit. 

How Workplace Bullying Impacts Mental Health and Self-Esteem

Workplace bullying doesn’t just show up in obvious actions—it can deeply harm your mental health and self-esteem. The emotional toll can leave lasting scars that affect your personal and work life. 

Here are some ways bullying can impact your mental health and confidence: 

  • Constant Stress and Anxiety: Bullying can make you feel tense and on edge, worrying about hostile situations or interactions. This stress can take a toll on your overall wellbeing. 
  • Feelings of Depression: Being bullied can lead to hopelessness and sadness. It may leave you feeling drained, unmotivated, and unable to find joy in daily life. 
  • Loss of Confidence: Frequent criticism or exclusion can make you doubt yourself. Over time, bullying can chip away at your sense of self-worth. 
  • Trouble Sleeping: Stress from bullying often affects sleep, leading to restless nights or insomnia. This lack of rest can make everything else feel harder to handle. 
  • Pulling Away from Others: If you’ve been bullied, you might avoid colleagues or social events. Isolation can make you feel even worse and deepen the impact on your mental health. 
  • Physical Symptoms: Bullying-related stress can show up as headaches, stomach issues, or constant fatigue. These physical problems only add to the emotional strain. 
  • Negative Self-Talk: Bullying can make you blame yourself for how you’re treated. This kind of thinking can become a cycle that’s hard to break.
 

If you’re facing bullying at work, recognising these signs is the first step to getting support. No one deserves to feel this way, and taking action can help protect your mental health and confidence. 

Spotting Bullying Behaviour in Colleagues

If you want to create a more positive workplace, recognising bullying behaviour in your colleagues is quite important for. Bullying can be obvious or subtle, but catching it early makes it easier to address. Here are some signs to watch for: 

Verbal Attacks: If someone keeps making harsh comments, sarcastic remarks, or belittling others, that’s a red flag. A disagreement here and there is normal, but repeated insults are not. 

Excluding Others: Deliberately leaving someone out of meetings, activities, or emails is a common tactic. This kind of behaviour can make the person feel left out and undervalued. 

Undermining Work: Bullies often sabotage others by withholding key information, making tasks harder than necessary, or setting people up to fail. This can hurt someone’s performance and reputation. 

Over-Checking Work: Excessive monitoring or micromanaging can feel like bullying too. Constant scrutiny creates stress and a sense of mistrust. 

Non-Verbal Intimidation: Eye-rolling, dismissive gestures, or aggressive body language might seem small, but they send a message of disrespect. These actions add to a toxic atmosphere.

Spotting these behaviours requires paying attention. If you notice these signs, take action to address the issue. A workplace built on respect and understanding helps everyone feel supported and valued. 

Recognising Signs that a Colleague May be Experiencing Bullying

It’s also crucial to be able to tell when a colleague is facing bullying in the workplace. Sometimes people don’t share their struggles, but changes in their behaviour can be a clue. Recognising the following signs can help you support a colleague who might be experiencing bullying. 

  • Behavioural Changes: If someone who’s usually outgoing becomes quiet or withdrawn, it could be a sign. Similarly, if they seem more anxious or distressed than usual, something might be wrong. 
  • Absenteeism or Tardiness: Avoiding the workplace is a common reaction to bullying. If a colleague starts showing up late or frequently calls in sick without explanation, they might be trying to avoid a difficult situation. 
  • Physical Signs: Stress from bullying often shows up physically. Look for signs like fatigue, headaches, or appearing unwell. These symptoms can take a toll on their health and work. 
  • Drop in Work Quality: A bullied colleague might struggle to focus or lose confidence, leading to more mistakes or a noticeable decline in productivity. 
  • Social Withdrawal: Someone being bullied might avoid group interactions or seem defensive. This isolation can make the situation even harder for them.
 

Paying attention to these signs can make a big difference before the situation escalates. If you think someone might be struggling, reaching out with kindness and support could be the first step toward helping them feel safe and valued again. 

How to Report Bullying you Observe in the Workplace

If you notice signs of bullying among your colleagues, taking action is important to create a workplace where everyone feels respected. Reporting bullying requires care and following the right steps to ensure the issue is handled properly. 

Start by keeping a detailed record of what you’ve seen. Write down specific behaviours, dates, times, and places, along with the names of anyone involved. If you notice how the bullying affects the targeted colleague, like changes in their mood or behaviour, include that too. Clear documentation strengthens your report. 

Review your workplace’s anti-bullying policy to understand the reporting process. These policies usually explain how to raise concerns and who to contact, such as HR or a designated manager. Knowing the correct procedure helps you handle the situation appropriately. 

Handle the matter discreetly. Respect the privacy of the person being bullied by not sharing details unnecessarily. Gossiping about the situation can make things worse or make the person feel even more uncomfortable. 

When you report the bullying, stick to the facts. Share what you observed and use your documentation to back up your account. Avoid making guesses about the bully’s motives or intentions, as this could complicate the process. 

If the issue doesn’t improve or no action is taken, follow up on your report. You may need to escalate it to a higher authority in your workplace or seek guidance from external organisations like ACAS or Citizens Advice. 

How to Support Colleagues Who are Experiencing Bullying

If you see a colleague showing signs of workplace bullying, your support can make a big difference to their wellbeing. Taking the right steps helps you offer meaningful help without making things worse. 

Start by giving them a safe space to talk. Find a private moment to express your concerns gently. You could say something like, “I’ve noticed you seem upset lately. Would you like to talk about it?” Let them share at their own pace without interrupting or jumping in with solutions. 

Listen carefully and show you understand their feelings. Simple phrases like, “That sounds really tough,” or “I can see why this would upset you,” can go a long way. Avoid brushing off their concerns or downplaying the issue, as this might make them hesitate to share more. 

Encourage them to keep a record of what’s happening. Suggest they note down specific incidents, including dates, times, and any witnesses. These details can be helpful if they decide to report the bullying later. 

Let them know where they can get help. Share information about your workplace’s anti-bullying policy or suggest speaking to HR or a trusted manager. Reassure them that they don’t have to face the situation alone and that you’re there if they need further support. 

If they’re unsure about reporting the bullying, respect their decision but remind them that taking action can lead to a better, safer workplace. Let them know you’ll support whatever steps they choose to take. 

Keep checking in with them. Regular conversations can help them feel less isolated and more confident as they work through the challenges. 

Supporting a colleague who’s experiencing bullying takes care and compassion. By being there for them, you can help them feel valued and encourage them to seek the resolution they need. 

Hayley Broughton-McKinna

Hayley Broughton-McKinna

Hayley is the Training Director at PMAC, and is a qualified Associate Psychological Practitioner with over 10 years professional experience.

Originally published: 10/01/2025

Last updated: 10/01/2025

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